And let’s talk about the fact that Joseph Gordon Levitt himself said the point of the movie is not so you’d feel bad for him and fall in love with him, it’s so you’d realize how selfish some people are.
Actual quote from him from an interview:
The (500) Days of Summer attitude of ‘He wants you so bad’ seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones but I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is.”
"He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.”
A lesson lost to most… hate to say it but I’m included in that. I tend to cycle through bouts of dropping everything in my life because I met someone, could be a friend or a love interest. Either way I tend to ascribe my life’s meaning based on the people in it.
I start to live for them and their happiness and ignore whatever may be going on in my life. This is the selfless side of the selfishness that ensues when one person’s happiness or livelihood is based solely around another person’s happiness.
I unknowingly use the template of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, I even seem to aspire to it. I want to burn myself into the existence of other people so deeply that I adapt to them in ways no one notices or can notice. I know I’m not the prime example of girlish or eccentric but I have my moments. I aim to be devoid of unrelatable flaws. It stems from a fear of being forgotten or left behind. And still, to this very moment I fall into that pattern, other people’s problems are so much easier to deal with than my own.
I should really learn to live for my own happiness… Someday… baby steps…
(Source: nickmillers, via sad-eyes-blue-lies)